Six Ways to Transform Your Space With Feng Shui

Six Ways to Transform Your Space With Feng Shui. ON VERITE PUBLISHED. --- Feng Shui, Interior Design, How to decorate your home, easy feng shui steps, how to manifest, energy work, space healing, los angeles, interiors.
Words by Meghan Wallace James.

Feng shui is my favorite lover. The longer we stay together, the better it gets… the alignment, the intuition, the communication between object and woman, the magic, the flow, the energy. As I peel back the layers, new intimacies are revealed – treasures that come from a daily practice of keeping temple, loving on my space / in my space. I believe that our home is a phenomenal portal for physical manifestation when we allow the energy to flow freely and beautifully. So what’s my ‘meet cute’ story with feng shui?

I amicably divorced the father of my children two years back. He kept our freshly renovated 1920’s Spanish in Beverly Hills, while I rented a sexy, yet tiny cottage. He wanted to keep everything and I wanted nada — no divorce juju, thank you very much. I had been pre-paving eccentric minimalism for years, and the Universe had delivered a bold opportunity. I had $5,000 to furnish the place and made each purchase thoughtfully yet with a light spirit. The result: a handmade Japanese futon with 70’s psychedelic brocade tatami trim, crisp white linens, Turkish bath towels, houseplants in glazed terra-cotta urns, a Shun chef’s knife, an Alessi French press, Heath dinnerware and a brand new vibrator (priorities). No carpets, no curtains, no art… I wanted to do it right or not do it at all. The few items from the old place furnished my boys’ zone, providing continuity during a major lifestyle transition. I sold or donated most of my clothing and books, keeping the favorites. Ahhhhhhhh, space to feel.  Can you feel it? I believe we all intuitively understand energetics of space, and with my first major feng shui foray, I was high on the results. Once I got my bearings, I sought out two master teachers: one Western and one Eastern, to create a unique, sensual  blend that I now share with clients.

Six Ways to Transform Your Space With Feng Shui. ON VERITE PUBLISHED. --- Feng Shui, Interior Design, How to decorate your home, easy feng shui steps, how to manifest, energy work, space healing, los angeles, interiors.

Okay, okay — but how to get started sans drastic life change or big budget, you say? Let us begin our feng shui journey together with six fundamental steps:

  1. Create an eye catching, welcoming entrance. Step outside and look at your entrance.  Stand there for a bit. Use all of your senses and make an honest assessment: Would good vibes want to enter your space? Energy has to get in before it can circulate. Beautify that entrance, and your front door in particular — studio apartment, mcMansion — it honestly does not matter. You should be able to open and close the door clearly.  No piles of stuff, no creaking hinges, no cobwebs. Go bold and lacquer your front door Chinese Red to activate the energy. Curate fresh planters. Or simply sweep your walk.  Bonus points for a doormat and a mailbox that look receptive of abundance. Make sure porch lights are in working order, change the bulb for ambiance and set timers for nightfall – alight the path home for good fortune.
  2. Go shoe-free indoors. If you are not already, become a ‘shoe-free’ home. Right before or after crossing the threshold, take those puppies off. Encourage family members, roommates and guests to follow suite with a shoe tray or bench. To understand feng shui is to communicate in the language of metaphors… think of everywhere those shoes go… do you really want all of that energy in your sacred space? Not to mention basic hygiene; chic slipper game, yes please.

Six Ways to Transform Your Space With Feng Shui. ON VERITE PUBLISHED. --- Feng Shui, Interior Design, How to decorate your home, easy feng shui steps, how to manifest, energy work, space healing, los angeles, interiors.3. Designate a home for every possession. Clear the clutter. Yep. This is the most obvious feng shui ‘cure’ and the most taxing process for many. Energetically, clutter is a series of unmade decisions, so take charge of your life and make those decisions. Pace yourself and do this cathartic work when you are in alignment, operating with positive energy, trusting that with every item you purge (sell, donate, trash) you are inviting in fresh energy. A gold standard is to aim for 50% volume: every closet, shelf, drawer, counter, surface should have half of the space free. Get artsy and arrange everyday objects into inspiring vignettes. You will feel a difference, I promise.

4. Bathroom shui at bay… close the toilet lid and keep the bathroom door shut.  This will quickly become second nature and will do wonders for the flow of your home.  Side note: fix any leaks in your space ASAP; leaking water indicates leaking weath.

Six Ways to Transform Your Space With Feng Shui. ON VERITE PUBLISHED. --- Feng Shui, Interior Design, How to decorate your home, easy feng shui steps, how to manifest, energy work, space healing, los angeles, interiors.5. Keep it clear down there: nothing under the bed. Not a thing. You deserve clean and clear dreaming, direct messaging from the collective unconscious, untarnished by dusty crap. I have pulled the wildest objects out from underneath client’s beds, including a signed edition of Taschen’s “The Rolling Stones.” This client was dealing with multiple bad boy rock stars and mending a broken heart; apply the language of metaphor please.

6. Design a weekly life-affirming ritual. Start a weekly ritual to clear stagnant energy and add life to your home. It can be as simple as dusting and saging, or opening all the windows and buying yourself flowers at the market. Escort out the old and welcome in the fresh regularly, and your life will start to bloom.

Meghan Wallace James is a mother, manufacturing engineer, Parsons-trained fashion designer, stylist, and healer.  She recently launched her feng shui consultancy and would be honored to partner with Vérité Woman readers.

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How Your Core Beliefs Are Hindering Your Success

How Your Core Beliefs Are Hindering Your Success, Verite woman, manifesting, spirituality, mental health, core beliefs, how to be successful, how to be present in the moment, wellness, holistic living, women, feminism, female entrepreneurs.
I sat across from my therapist for our first session and within 15 minutes she had introduced the concept of core beliefs. Next came a handout — a piece of paper categorized into of varying, yet very common core beliefs that plague the greater population. Core beliefs encompass how we see ourselves, others, and how we digest the actions of the universe.

Only beautiful people are worthy of love

Men will hurt us if we let them in

I’m not smart enough to be successful

Artists don’t make money

Basically, just a list of daily taunts our mind tortures us with when we’re having an otherwise great day. The issue with these preconceived pillars of thought is that they are insanely limiting to our growth as people. When we can’t move beyond the walls of these ideas we can’t step into our highest form of self. And trust me, it can be difficult to mute that inner voice for even a minute. Take Vérité Woman, for example, when I started it three years ago I woke up every day with paralyzing anxiety that I had just taken on a career death wish. My core beliefs that surfaced were along the lines of “small businesses don’t succeed without funding”, “I am not smart enough to stand the tests”, “people don’t care about what I have to say”. The last one was especially tormenting and an effective way to get me right back into bed.

Where did these shitty mental barriers come from? We unknowingly picked them up along the way as we skipped through life. From impressions adults made on us from a very young age to our first heartbreak — we are like silly putty and every indent made sticks. So often in times of vulnerability, our core beliefs find satisfaction in engaging with the ego and going in for the kill. We’ve all seen it play out in relationships, as we jump to conclusions about what the other person may be feeling or how they may perceive us. Self-sabotage is the activity of choice when our core beliefs take the reigns and often it leads to demolishing situations before they are able to unfold, or worse never taking the plunge in the first place. How Your Core Beliefs Are Hindering Your Success, Verite woman, manifesting, spirituality, mental health, core beliefs, how to be successful, how to be present in the moment, wellness, holistic living, women, feminism, female entrepreneurs.

Vérité Woman or any aspect of my business hasn’t been a walk in the park, but without taking that risk, I would have never opened so many doors for myself, taken on the freedom of being my own boss, or met so many wonderful individuals who are the backbone of its inner-workings. So how do we change this built-in belief system to work for us not against us? We must first identify what our core beliefs are. For me, a weird one was “Writers don’t make money”. It literally doesn’t even make sense, I mean have I heard of a little lady named J.K. Rowlings? However, somewhere along the way, I picked up this visual of some semi-impoverished writer living in a tiny apartment with permanent bedhead and only the income to afford a diet of black coffee — and then I set out mirroring this life without even realizing it. By limiting myself to this idea and even semi romancing it, I allowed it to become real. Not because I’m not business savvy, or resourceful but because I believed it as if it were second nature. So the first step was identifying the roots of these deeply buried ideas. Once I had shed light on its beginnings and realized how silly and truly inaccurate my vision of a writer was, I was able to rewire that thought by visualizing all those I had seen succeed in this very industry. Similarly, my therapist had assigned me to come up with three core beliefs I had about myself, and then three examples for each that proved them null.

By rephrasing our inner conversation, we create a whole bunch of space in which we can build relationships, careers, ideas, lives. While you will never totally squash that voice — unless you become completely enlightened, and in which case please tell me how — being able to identify its intentions can free you.

Cool, I just wrote an article about hearing voices in my head.

 

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Why I Don't Believe in Online Dating

Why I Don't Believe in Online Dating by VERITE WOMAN, Feminism, Dating Apps, Intersectional Feminism, Dating Advice, Sex and dating in the social media age, Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Relationships, Sex, Lifestyle, spirituality, energies, energy frequencies.
Words by Renée Palkovsky.

I believe in energy, I believe in timing. All that we are is matter that vibrates at a particular frequency and gives off energy. And time, well time is like the interstitial fluid in between our cells. Without it, we wouldn’t be the physical forms that we are. The first time I met my last love interest, I hardly noticed his presence. Who knows if I was too occupied with the cute shorts that I was trying on or if I was just naive, but I didn’t feel anything. I walked out of the store we met in without giving it one second of my time. The second time I miraculous crossed paths with him was wildly different. Just looking at him made my heart expand out of my chest as if it were as infinite as the galaxy. I could feel his presence on my skin like static. He was always on my mind, behind the scenes of every thought. And it stayed like this for years. So what does all of this mean? Why not at first sight but then the overload of feelings the second time around? I don’t know the answers but the inquisition remains prominent in my everyday life – especially when it comes to online dating.

It’s not that I disagree with it. I’d never judge someone for online dating. Let’s face it, most people are or have at some point in their lives been on a dating website or app. For me, it just doesn’t work. Like I said before, I believe in energy. I believe our energies attract certain things into our lives, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant. It’s a vibrational match to where we are in our lives and what needs to be learned at that particular time. Who knows, maybe I had nothing to learn the first time I met my previous love or maybe I wasn’t ready for the learnings that it was to bring. I’ll never know the answers to these questions but what I do know is that I wouldn’t have been able to feel what I felt had I just seen a couple photos of him with a dog whose owner is ambiguous along with a scripted bio of how he loves to work hard and play hard. There is more to it, it goes beyond physical appearance. The attractions and the subsequent feelings cannot be translated over technology. This is beyond manmade technology and much like the cosmos, it’s beyond our understanding. So why don’t we let go and welcome not knowing?Why I Don't Believe in Online Dating by VERITE WOMAN, Feminism, Dating Apps, Intersectional Feminism, Dating Advice, Sex and dating in the social media age, Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Relationships, Sex, Lifestyle.

I want depth, I want mystery. I don’t want to sit here and have my life spelled out – where is the fun in that? This is how I interpret online dating. There is no room for synchronicity or “coincidences”. It feels like an assembly line in a car factory – same experience over, and over, and over. And beyond that, I don’t think these apps do any of us justice. How can we possibly decide if someone is worthy of our time, our love by looking at a photo and reading a self-crafted description? What I’ve noticed about humans is that we are so hard on ourselves. We see ourselves through this shaded lens when those in our lives see a bright, beaming light contouring our body. Rarely do I encounter someone who appreciates all their beauty and brilliance – sadly it’s most often the opposite. So because we are blind to our own beauty we’re handicapping ourselves by the poor representation of oneself on these apps. We’re hiding that special something that might just be the thing that casts the spell of madly in love.

There’s more to this validation through pictures and script that needs to be put on the table. When you’re cruising through and swiping left or right (I still don’t know which is which), you are accepting this form of approval. You are telling the world, “Yes, I allow someone to decide if I am worthy by my looks.” And you know what, maybe that’s cool with you. But for me, I’m more than my body and I have a soul who loves to give love and receive love. I want my person to feel me energetically, not only see me physically. And if I want this for myself, then I should give others the same respect. I want to give everyone, romantic or not, the opportunity to be a part of my life for who they are not what they are. We are ever-changing, and if you haven’t figured it out yet — aging is a real thing.

I know there is this looming pressure of “when”. I experience it on the daily, whether it be self-inflicted or from outside sources. But I don’t want to date just to date. I don’t want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one or worse to not be alone. But for me, dating apps are like speed dating — quickly skimming the pages and judging a book by its cover. If I’m only living this life once then I don’t want to speed through any of it. I want to live every moment — good and bad because there is learning in both of them. Everything in my life has played out perfectly to lead me to where I am right now. I’ve had a lot of “bad”, trauma, drama, fear, sadness and I’ve had a lot of good, joyful, happiness, excitement, bliss – all of which I am thankful for because I know it was all timed precisely and has allowed me to become the human I am today. The universe has worked in its wonderfully mysterious and mystical ways to, one way or another, fulfill my dreams and desires. It’s aligned events and occurrences with such specificity, that no man could ever micromanage with the same effectiveness. So if it’s been able to do all it has thus far, then why would I interrupt it now? Why would I get in the way of its magical workings and diminish the element of surprise? Why wouldn’t I trust in energy and trust that it will happen when the time is right?

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Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love.

Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love. | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love.Now that you’ve been introduced to the most important layer of the self-love journey, we want to give you some tools to implement, that will help turn this elusive concept into a habit: Our Tried and True Practices for Finding and Sustaining Self Love! This isn’t an easy out of insecurities, it’s still hard work but from what we’ve found they will set you on the right path. Get ready to free yourself from self-doubt.

Inside:
The inside encompasses the ego and mental selves (if you haven’t read our last post, be sure to do that first) — this is who you believe yourself to be on the inside, what makes up your personality and rules your belief system.

  1. Take charge of your thoughts. Open up the notes in your phone and make a list. Define a being that you could love. Define a being that you believe is beauty. Not by cultures standards, but by your personal standards. For example, your mother is a force to be reckoned with, her large presence and unwavering stance has always been admirable to you — put it on the list. This list will be your touch base whenever you feel unsure in yourself. That’s why it should be kept on your phone, so you can get to it in dire times.
  2. Speak to your body as if it were someone you love — gently, reassuring, pulling out its best attributes to remind it how beautiful and powerful it really is.
  3. Make a list of gratitudes. This is one we at Vérité Woman can testify to its powers to heal. When you’re feeling a surge of insecurities about your self worth, ability to achieve, or attract love whip out a journal or your phone notes and make a list of all of the things that you love about who you are (a very important step to meditate on), things you made happen (big or small) that make you happy, and things you have attracted: got that job you wanted, made amazing friends that you love and look up to, most importantly gratitude for the beautiful life you’ve built yourself. This list will immediately make you glow, and put into perspective that your good energy and high-level of worth made these wonderful things come to fruition.
  4. Unfollow, unfollow, unfollow. Social media is one of, if not the largest source of feeling inadequate in our modern day. We allow this tool that is meant to be a source of inspiration to be a source of pure mental plague. Unfollow all the accounts that do not serve you, or the people who make you feel lesser — it’s not thinspiration, it’s sickness. This makes room for accounts and people that leave you happier and more whole.
  5. Forgive yourself! We hate when others teaching self-love say “accept who you are” because we believe you are always changing, growing, learning in an upward trajectory. However, instead we say forgive yourself — it’s too much weight to carry around the guilt you feel from past actions, or the bruises you dolled out from being too hard on yourself. When you’re feeling these pasts plaguing you just repeat I forgive you as your mantra until it passes. But most importantly while you say these words to yourself meditate on believing them. With habit, the words will become reality.

Outside:
These tools address your physical self —that body that has taken so much abuse from others and yourself.

  1. Treat your body like it belongs to someone you love. Romance it, pamper it — face masks may not be the key to self-care but the action of caring for works wonders. Act like your body is a relationship you are in and have to consistently cultivate, because guess what, you do.
  2. Find beauty in who you are — This should be apart of your Gratitude List (see above). Describe in depth the force in your curves that demand attention, the clarity of your eyes that see the best in people. You can choose to keep this in the same place as your gratitude list, and your list of defining beauty traits to reference when needed.
  3. Self portraiture. This, for some might be the most difficult step in this process — so many feel a veil of shyness hide their true charisma once a camera focuses on them. When you’re all by yourself set up a camera, the self timer on your phone, or even just go to selfie mode. Spend time documenting what you look like when it’s just you. Document varying emotions if you want to take the project that far — when you have tears running down your face, when you are smiling at the camera, when you feel sexiest. Take hundreds if you have to. It may sound like a whole bunch of time wasted on vanity, but in fact it is a wonderful healing exercise into seeing yourself from an outside view. Look at these photos as if you are a stranger finding splendor in this confident woman. Soon you will start to believe in her, and become her.

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Unlocking Self Love: Everyone Wants Know How, We Have Key!

Unlocking Self Love: Everyone Wants To Know How, And We Have The Key! | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love, spirituality, feminism.Self love. Two words that we’ve found to be a hefty concept, but often elusive, just out of ones reach. Everyone wants to know how, we have the key! Well, actually you have the key too, you just don’t know it yet. We read philosophical texts, pulled from personal experience, and studied up — all to get deep into the root of the idea, What is self love? And further how do we teach it? Finally, we think we’ve got it, and we’ve packaged it up nicely to deliver to you just in time for the fresh canvas that is 2018.
We figured if we’re dealing with an idea that could vary from woman to woman, culture to culture we should introduce exactly our intentions with this whole self love thing, and what we would like to achieve: An uninterrupted peace. Think of the sound of an ethereal high-note being sung, if something interrupts the note’s trajectory it is no longer as beautiful, but if it meets its highest potential and holds there we are impressed, we lap up the sensory beauty. Even more-so, if many enchanting voices join in they do not take away from the first, it becomes a choir — overwhelming us with its brilliance. This is our goal for you! For us! For women! Uninterrupted confidence and self-worth, and soon when we all find it the female whole becomes this choir — stronger and more impactful together.
In our research we found a few key notes of repeating elements that spanned time periods and ideologies, at first glance they may seem simple enough but the truth is there’s nothing easy about self work. The first idea that we want you to take through all the rest is this: To find a true place in self love one must separate themselves from their physical self, their ego self, and their mental self.

Unlocking Self Love: Everyone Wants To Know How, And We Have The Key! | Now on VERITE WOMAN, how to learn self love, how to have confidence, how to feel good about yourself, how to stop being depressed, how to have confidence at work, how to have confidence in relationships, how to manifest love, spirituality, feminism.The Physical Self:
We know this sounds like a drastic cutting of ties but allow us to explain:
As women we have felt wars against our bodies our whole lives. Whether you realize they impacted you or not. Each little bullet of suppression, sexism, and abuse is worn like invisible scaring on our flesh. They become beliefs in us: we aren’t attractive enough to feel love, we are only a trophy to be shown off, we are only worthy of being someone’s booty call. We often say we are manifesting a better life for ourselves, but while you wear those scars you will only attract more wounds. You are not your body. This is just a vessel you were given to achieve what you needed on this Earth, and to learn a few things along the way. Once you can separate yourself from the physical body that feels these battles against it you can be truly free.

The Ego Self:
Your ego self may be the most detrimental of them all. This is the part of us that keeps us down out of sheer pride. It doesn’t want you to love yourself because it wants you to stay curled up under the covers, safe, with a tub of ice cream – just you and Ego. It’s the self that won’t let you share a photo of your stretch marks on social media because it says “Ew, people don’t want to see that, the world says that’s not what beauty is.” We say tell Ego to fuck right off. Once you can separate yourself from the Ego that keeps you small you can be truly free.

The Mental Self:
This one’s tricky, because here at Vérité Woman we say your mind is your most important weapon, and it is! But that’s your well-fed, well-tended to mind. The mental self that you need to sever a relationship with is the one that spirals. The one that is constantly attaching itself to tiny scenarios and making them into Broadway plays. Once you realize you are not the mental part of you that can sabotage a good hair day in under three seconds, or control your self-worth with self-fulfilling prophecies you can truly be free.
What’s left you might wonder, now that we’ve taken away all the things you have, until now, thought to make up your identity.

The Soul:
Let us just preface this by saying we are in no way trying to define for you the meaning of The Soul in religious or spiritual terms, but this is how we have come to refer to our Other Self. This Soul is the purest form of you from birth, how you come into the world. This part of you is not yet affected by outside sources that we as humans are so malleable to — those that shape your ego, how you feel about your body, your insecurities. It still lives amongst your other selves and surfaces in times of pure inhibition. It is the highest goal to one day live in this state. The part of you that is not what you know, what you look like, or what you’ve become through pain and gain — it’s the part of you that laughs with a snort, stops at every other flower to take a photo, that sings without noticing while stuck in traffic — it’s the purest you. She possesses an uninterrupted peace.

Find our tried and true practices for finding and sustaining this self love here.

 

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