#VERITEWOMAN ADVICE: How To Survive The Holidays With Your Trump Supporting Fam

Advice: How To Survive The Holidays With Your Trump Supporting Fam | VERITE WOMAN, advice column, feminist community, girl gang, intersectionality, anti-trump, not my president, Hillary Clinton, republican, democrat, politics, family, Christmas, hanukkah.
We’re all getting ready to ship off to our respective holiday celebrations — we’re foreshadowing eggnog, ugly sweaters, and heated debates across the Christmas ham. The first installment of Femme Feed Advice comes from a pal of the site with this wing-dinger:

I’m headed home to see my conservative family for the holidays. It’s always a bit of butting heads on lifestyles but this year feels especially scary since they are Trump supporters and I am very vocal about not being one. Any advice you babes might have on staying sane, and ensuring no one gets dish wear to the head?

A great question indeed. We chose this topic to kick off our advice column because we figured there would be a whole slew of you also fearing just the same scenario. Truth is, it’s unavoidable, and I’m not a prime example in this department — I can’t help but take the subject very personally, often resulting in huffing and puffing my way out the front door. I turned to some trusted resources to bring you answers to keep the blood shed at bay. We took to a good ol’ group text to ask our girls with similar family dynamics how they manage to hold off a family meltdown.

Nida who’s spending Hanukkah with the Trump supporting men in her life suggests you set boundaries. “My advice is to embrace prayer. There’s no point in ruining a perfectly good evening and/or outfit over any asshole. It’s about time and place, and holiday parties are neither.” This means being vocal about what you do and don’t want to talk about is key. Explain that you still respect them regardless of their political beliefs, and you would like them to respect your right to remain festive. Another friend seconds this movement by saying “People are complicated. You’re not going to love every part of them. You love them in spite of their faults. Donald Trump is awful and scary man, but it doesn’t mean people who do find him appealing are bad people.”

“Invest in a weed pen and smoke out in the bathroom with your younger cousin,” says Mathilda. Her politically-inclined pops & co. can get a little heated, so bringing the relaxers to the mixer might just be your savior. While this sounds like off-beat advice we take it as more metaphorical. Keep things light hearted and chill — and when someone’s had too many hot toddies and leans in to talk international affairs just excuse yourself and find a quiet place to cool down. Removing yourself from the scenario momentarily can allow your mind to find ease, and let’s your family know you’re using your most adult moves to respect freedom of speech but not indulge. If that doesn’t work she suggests “Memorize Eminem’s rap bashing Trump and make a toast to recite it.”

A third confidant, Dani, suggests taking a very different approach. Break out the shot glasses and turn it into a night of drunk history! “Every time Trump comes up, Tequila!” Our guess is you’ll probably eventually forget what you were talking about in the first place. Overall just agree to have fun regardless of your personal beliefs. Take it up a notch and film the whole thing — it will bring you all closer to rewatch the slurry footage at next years family gathering.

Our final, and potentially best advice for you: Be the curiosity that didn’t kill the cat. Ask them questions that might help you understand where their beliefs might lie even if you don’t share them. Make sure you promise yourself to listen with your ears and not with your voice — and let them get it out. Even if you don’t agree at the end, they will appreciate your efforts to open the conversation and learn. You never know, they may just want to learn some things in return. Educate each other — chances are they love you, and just didn’t realize how it was affecting you personally. You are all individuals — you can’t control, or have expectations of one another — you’re only here to teach each other!

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Gift Guide: 19 Gems To Give The Girl Who Has Everything

Gift Guide: 19 Gems To Give The Girl Who Has Everything | VERITE WOMAN, Holiday Gift Guide, Glossier, Christmas, What to give, Gifts under $100, Gifts for her, Gifts for BFF, Palms, Books, Hanukah gifts, shop, sale, online shopping, kerastase, BNKR, CAMEO, Jewelry, What to buy your girlfriend for Christmas, bones and feathers, Lingerie, True & Co., Witch book, Skin Owl, Kusmi Tea.
The Vérité Woman Paloma Hoops

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, because we satisfyingly nailed our shopping lists, and everyone was getting what they wanted. Not only do we have a list of 19 gems to give the girl who has everything — but simultaneously  this year’s shopping won’t leave you broke AF come 2018. From the perfect picks for your worldly art-loving friend, to your secret-botanist BFF, and even a few things you might want to snag for yourself — Pink Himalayan Salt Shot Glasses for those tequila infused fêtes? Literally everyone needs those. This is us officially wishing you a very merry holiday.

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  1. The Cartorialist Leading Ladies Print
  2. LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candle – Vanilla & Creme de Cacao
  3. Bones & Feathers Collective Gold Drop Earrings
  4.  C/MEO COLLECTIVE Last Light Long Sleeve Dress
  5. Vérité Woman Les Courses Tote
  6. Kerastase Chronologiste Travel Set Scalp Treatment For All Hair Types

 

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7. Pink Himalayan Salt Shot Glasses | Best Salted Tequila Shot Glasses 100% Pure, 1.2 oz 3inch Carved Salt Rock Shooter Glasses 8 Pc Set
8. Witch: Unleashed. Untamed. Unapologetic.
9. Gift box for 3 mini tins – Tea Kusmi Tea

10. Cloud Paint Quad11. Hathaspace Marble Essential Oil Diffuser, 300ml Aromatherapy Scent Diffuser, Humidifier, & Air Purifier with Ultrasonic Cool Mist Technology, BPA-Free, 7 Color Adjustable Ambient LED Light (White)12. Martius: The Book of Palms
13. Malin + Goetz cannabis hand wash + votive set.

 

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14. The Cartorialist A Single Turtle Framed Print
15. Vérité Woman Paloma Hoops
16. Laneige Slumber Party ($38.00 Value) Set
17. 2018 GALLERY LEATHER Black Leather Standard Weekly Desk Planner (Size 8″ X 5.75″)

18. True & Co. True Everyday Bralette
19. Skin Owl Body + Selenite Crystal Illuminator 

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Amazon Beauty Buys, & Hacks That Are Better Than Designer Products!

Amazon Beauty Buys, & Hacks That Are Better Than Designer Products! VERITE PUBLISHED --- Amazon prime, budget beauty buys, affordable skincare, affordable hair products, affordable beauty tools, nail care, at home manicure, clean beauty products, at home facial, inexpensive facial, beauty hacks, beauty tips, Revlon, Maybelline, Bentonite Clay Mask, How to, Aquaphor, Korean Beauty, Tony Moly, CeraVe, Bioderma, Healthy Makeup Remover, Ayurvedic Beauty, Ayurvedic Oil Massage, Living Proof, Product Review, Sally Hansen Gel, Dermaroller, Facial Massager, Sonia Kashuk HairbrushWelcome to Amazon Anonymous, a support group for those who have Prime and aren’t afraid to use it. We do so in the name of quality content of course. We want to be able to bing you tried and true suggestions we know you’ll love. Self-less, yes. But we digress, the reason we’ve gathered you here today is to share our most-hoarded, most-affordable, least-questionable beauty products, and tools, along with some serious pro tip hacks — all that can be found on Amazon. We can already hear the delivery truck rolling up!
Amazon Beauty Buys, & Hacks That Are Better Than Designer Products! VERITE PUBLISHED --- Amazon prime, budget beauty buys, affordable skincare, affordable hair products, affordable beauty tools, nail care, at home manicure, clean beauty products, at home facial, inexpensive facial, beauty hacks, beauty tips, Revlon, Maybelline, Bentonite Clay Mask, How to, Aquaphor, Korean Beauty, Tony Moly, CeraVe, Bioderma, Healthy Makeup Remover, Ayurvedic Beauty, Ayurvedic Oil Massage, Living Proof, Product Review, Sally Hansen Gel, Dermaroller, Facial Massager, Sonia Kashuk Hairbrush

Makeup

Maybelline New York Full ‘N Soft Washable Mascara, Very Black, 0.28 fl. oz.

This tube has been sworn by over and over on internet beauty forums, and we agree! When we aren’t using our YSL Shock Volume Mascara, this drug store buy gives comparably lust-worthy lashes. It separates, and elongates without clumping or flaking. Maybelline also formulated a Quick Dissolve System that allows the product to wash off softly without compromising the health of those little batters. Pro tip: don’t pump the wand in and out of the tube for longer lasting quality mascara!

Revlon ColorStay Overtime Lipcolor, Unending Red

We’ll be the first to admit we aren’t huge lipstick wearers — we tend to lean more in the direction of a subtle tint. However, when we stumbled upon Revlon’s ColorStay Unending Red we were hooked. Our love for this product will probably last as long as it’s hours on your lips — which is basically forever. Though it can be tough to get off, it’s a long-wear lipstick that truly does what it promises, and won’t crack mid-day. Pro tip: It dries with a matte finish, but has an opposing end with a creamy clear stick to give that luster you may desire.

Revlon ColorStay Lipliner with SoftFlex, Rose 655, 0.01 Ounce

We learn most our beauty tricks from makeup artist’s on set — and lip liner is no different. It’s not just for your mom’s makeup bag, liner has made a comeback and for good reason! We love Revlon liners because they go on easy, and stay all day without a smudge. Pro tip: Use it to accompany your lipstick, or fill in the outer-edge of your lips and use your finger to pull it into the rest of your lip to create a plumper looking pucker, and a natural tint like effect.Amazon Beauty Buys, & Hacks That Are Better Than Designer Products! VERITE PUBLISHED --- Amazon prime, budget beauty buys, affordable skincare, affordable hair products, affordable beauty tools, nail care, at home manicure, clean beauty products, at home facial, inexpensive facial, beauty hacks, beauty tips, Revlon, Maybelline, Bentonite Clay Mask, How to, Aquaphor, Korean Beauty, Tony Moly, CeraVe, Bioderma, Healthy Makeup Remover, Ayurvedic Beauty, Ayurvedic Oil Massage, Living Proof, Product Review, Sally Hansen Gel, Dermaroller, Facial Massager, Sonia Kashuk Hairbrush

Skin & Body

Molivera Organics Bentonite Clay for Detoxifying and Rejuvenating Skin and Hair, 16 oz.

You’ve surely heard us mention this product before — it’s a staple of our bathroom cabinet. Not only can you use it to detox your pores, but it has benefits in supplement form as well. Basically, you need to be on the Bentonite train. This clay specifically is mixed into a mask formula which then removes dirt from your pores, and brings blood to skins surface to heal scars and fine lines! It’s a miracle worker. We put it everywhere from our face, and décolletage, to hands, feet (for pulling out toxins), and even hair! Simply combine the powder with apple cider vinegar and mix until it becomes fluffy. Pro Tip: do not use a metal bowl, it won’t mix properly!

Aquaphor Advanced Therapy Healing Ointment Skin Protectant 7 Ounce Tube

There’s literally no time that we leave the house without a tube (or three) of these in our various carrying devices. From locking in moisture to our face before bed, to an easy cheekbone highlighter we owe a lot of our lives to this product. Pro tip: dab a tiny bit on the ends of your naked eyelashes, and brush up your eyebrows with it for a wet, glowing appearance.

TonyMoly I’m Real Set of 11

When you don’t have time to find your nearest Korean beauty emporium, Amazon has the goods. We found these TonyMoly sheet masks two years back, and have been religiously using them since. A variety pack is a great way to dive in and find out which is your favorite! Pro tip: Wear one into a steamy shower or bath, and leave it on for fifteen minutes while you do your business and it works it’s magic. The steam will open your pores to receive all the nutrients of the mask!

CeraVe Moisturizing Cream 16 oz Daily Face and Body Moisturizer for Dry Skin

Another suggestion we originally came across in the depths of a beauty forum, this rich cream is great for all skin types. It’s nourishing, goes on light, and is unscented so it won’t intercept your chosen scent. CeraVe is dermatologist developed promising to be a pot of prestige! Pro tip: This cream also contains hyaluronic acid so it’s just what you need for soothing irritated skin, and combating signs of age not just on your face but your whole body! 

Bioderma Sensibio H2O Micellar Water, Cleansing and Make-Up Removing Solution

Don’t worry, we will do a separate French Girl beauty buy soon, but in the meantime: get. on. this. Bioderma uses an H2O Micellar Water in many of it’s product to breath moisture into each step of your routine. This specific product removes tough makeup in a non-intrusive way. Just pour a few dashes on to a gentle cloth, and wipe away! Pro tip: you don’t even have to wash it off after, just leave it to soak into your skin for optimum nutrients.

Banyan Botanicals Vata Massage Oil – Certified Organic, 12 oz – Relaxing, warming, grounding – Warm herbs that support vitality and vigor and promote calmness and strength

Being Ayurvedic hobbyists, this product was suggested to us by a wise Ayurvedic doctor. “Give yourself a daily, 15 minute oil massage” she said, “We ain’t got time for that” we said. But then we gave it a try, and since we’ve been hooked. This mixture is the best for getting your circulation going, hydrating skin, and is all natural! Banyan Botanicals is brimming with herbs and oils that settle a strained mind and soak into skin to benefit energy levels through aromatherapy. Pro tip: like a daily spa treatment, massage into skin right before your shower using circular upward motions covering the entire body (even ears and hair!), then rinse it off and get on with your day!

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L’Oreal Total Repair 5 Damage Erasing Balm 8.5 Ounces

We’ve often forked out serious bucks for at home hair treatments, until one day we stumbled upon this L’oreal Total Repair and it’s been saving our tresses, and bank accounts since! It works like a luxury product hydrating dry ends, and leaving you with luxuriously soft locks. Pro tip: Use interchangeably with your regular conditioner, we usually use it twice a week for quick results!

Living Proof Maping Shop Perfect Hair Day Dry Shampoo [1Pcs] 4-ounce

Trust when we say we tried every dry shampoo on the market and this was by far the best! No chalkiness, no residue, no weird grandma scent. Living Proof provides the best light-weight fix on days when you just can’t… Pro tip: We use this for fine hair to give it a little more grit when styling, it helps with a good all-day hold.Amazon Beauty Buys, & Hacks That Are Better Than Designer Products! VERITE PUBLISHED --- Amazon prime, budget beauty buys, affordable skincare, affordable hair products, affordable beauty tools, nail care, at home manicure, clean beauty products, at home facial, inexpensive facial, beauty hacks, beauty tips, Revlon, Maybelline, Bentonite Clay Mask, How to, Aquaphor, Korean Beauty, Tony Moly, CeraVe, Bioderma, Healthy Makeup Remover, Ayurvedic Beauty, Ayurvedic Oil Massage, Living Proof, Product Review, Sally Hansen Gel, Dermaroller, Facial Massager, Sonia Kashuk Hairbrush

Nails
Sally Hansen Miracle Gel Nail Color, Top Coat [101] 0.5 oz

Remember when gel nails became a craze and then you realized they were literally wearing down your nails, and suffocating them from the inside out? Same. Sally Hansen Miracle Gel is the best thing we’ve found since, giving a comparable finish without eating away at what’s underneath and it still lasts longer than regular polish! Basically it’s a good looking mani when you don’t have the budget to indulge! Pro tip: Use your favorite regular polish shades underneath and swipe this on top for a longer lasting manicure!

ZOYA Remove Plus in Big Flipper Bottle, 8 Fluid Ounce

That whole dipping cotton pads into a bottle situation is a little messy for our tastes! When we found this ZOYA (a cleaner ingredient based nail line) flip top remover it was game over. You just place the cotton ball on top and press in to eject just the right amount of product. Pro tip: dab a tiny bit on to a cotton pad and lightly place over just painted nails to dry them faster!

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The Adelie 192-Pin-Titanium Gold SKin Care Derma Roller (0.25 mm)

If you aren’t using a derma roller, you aren’t living! And if you aren’t, you should be buying this one. After trying out a few this one is the best budget friendly buy for a quality roller! If you’re not sure what the benefits of rolling tiny needles over your skin is, we have more info for you here. This anti-aging trick is apart of our daily routine — with a .25mm needle like this one you can roll about three times a week! Pro tip: want fuller lips without fillers? use this derma roller over your lips to get an extra, natural plump!

Kaasage Eyelash Curler With advanced Silicone Pressure Pad & Fits All Eye Shapes Get the Perfect Curl (Black)

We hadn’t used an eyelash curler since middle school, until we remembered just how beneficial they can be for getting that extra dramatic look. That’s when we hoped on Amazon and found this baby. Yep, you need it. The silicone pressure pads make sure there’s no lash breakage over time. Pro tip: Use even when you aren’t wearing mascara for a super natural, yet eye-catching look.

Sonia Kashuk Small Hair Brush (Made of Boar Bristles and Nylon)

You’ve heard of the Mason Pearson hair brush yes? The one that every hair stylist, and celebrity swears by? The one that comes out to a casual $230. When we heard of this investment piece we immediately took to the web to find out if there was a comparable offering for (waaaay) less the price — that’s how we found Sonia Kashuk and boy are we converts. It competes with Pearson on design and bristle, and only costs a casual $200 less. Pro tip: for an extra sleek look spray hair with frizz control, and brush through while the product is still wet. Hair will behave all day!

Huluwa Face Massager, Facial Massage, T-Shape Electric Face Massage Roller for V Face Pull Tight Firming, Beauty Tool, Gold

When we featured this face massager on our IG story, you guys went nuts! If you missed it, here’s a tool that will change your beauty game. For only $10, and on Prime (that’s what we’re talking about), this vibrating gold piece will drain toxins from your face, and de-puff tired eyes! It’s like a mini face lift in minutes. Pro tip: apply a face oil to skin, and then use the massager on top to really get the product into skin’s surface!

Hansderma SkinSoft Mask Mixing Bowl, Spatula and Golden Brush Set (3pc) DIY Mask, Clay, Mud, Deadsea Mud, Modeling Mask (1 Set)

We love to play around with making natural masks in our kitchen (honey, yogurt anyone?), that’s why this face mask mixing bowl is a must-have. That above Bentonite Clay mask mixes gracefully in such a bowl. The brush makes for easy application. Pro tip: Pack this for when you travel, so your mask game never has to take a backseat.

If you have any Amazon buys you think we need to know about, shout it to the rooftops in the comment section below!

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